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Showers stemmed

from old

‘Most modern brides reap size- ‘-able harvests of “loot” at the traditional bridal shower.

>» And many have ¢ome to feel

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this is, only fair because in their

‘single days they gave to their friends who preceded them down the aisle.

But still there is a sentimen-

_ lal Side to the custom, and most

“brides enjoy the’ party atmos- phere and being surrounded by their close friends~ at this -great moment in their lives. The gifts are an added bonus.

One legend which tells how the bridal shower originated con- cérns a Ditch girl who fell in love with a poor but charitable miller who gave’ most of his flour to the needy. Because the girl's father did not approve of the miller, he refused to give

the rite went -through - the--girl-her dowry, necessary. {phase

‘set’ up housekeeping, unless she married a wealthy farmer.

Townspeople who had been aided by the young miller join- ed together and donated small gifts to help the couple. When massed together and ‘‘showered’ upon the girl, the gifts exceeded the value of the dowry she was supposed to receive.

But the term “shower” was not coined until the 1890's when someone concéived the idea of filling a Japanese paper parasol, then a popular fad in interior decoration, with little gifts.’ The bride-to-be was obliged to open the parasol over her head, re- sulting in a ‘‘shower’’ of gifts.

WEDDING CAKE “It was customary to break the wedding cake over her as a sign

~of abundance: Guests took home

small broken pieces of cake, and eventually these ‘‘tokens” were invested by the supersti- tious with the power to make single «guests dream of those they would marry, if the tokens were tucked under their pillows on the wedding night.

Brides also had rigorous going in the 14th century in Europe. Wedding guests scrambled to ob-

legends

tain “the bride’s garter a sym- bol of good luck. The disheveled brides finally took to throwing a stocking instead. And with time, custom has ‘made the event less wearing on the brides, They can just toss their boun- quets today, and the girl who catches one is supposed to be- come the next bride. ‘Orange blossoms, now attach-

in her bouquet were thought by the Saracens to insure happiness and good fortune.

And the reason wedding gowns are white is that in early Rome the color signified joy. Later, the connotation of purity was tied in. °

Most of the customs connected with marriage have exown wp as three

finally the marriage for love:

CAPTURED BRIDE

For instance, from the days when brides had to be captured, comes the term “best man.’’ He ‘was the most ablebodied of the groom’s _ friends who actually caught the bride as shé ran away. Other friends who aided in the chase weté called “groomsmen”, today’s ushers.

From the same phase came the forerunner of the “hon ey- moon.” After the bride was eaught, she had to be hidden from kinfolk out to rescue her. After a length of time, usually two weeks, the groom felt confi- dent they had given up ooking and gone away, and it was safe for the couplé~ to come out ~ of hiding.

harks back to the days when

fathers looked upon their daugh-

ters as commodities to be sold. And the bridal, veil stems from

bride’s face was covered until after the business contract was seeure. Then the bridegroom got the chance to lift the veil and gaze for the first time upon the

face of the wife he’d bought. —

Practical articles make ideal wedding presents _

Thoughtful friends of the about-to-be-marrieds, aware of today’s high-cost of living, lean

towards the practical when.

choosing wedding presents. There's a wide range of help- ful items. available, to fit the giver’s budget. Here are some suggestions, to use as a starter: - For $10 or less: Rechargable flashlight; vase, knife sharpen- er, silent butler, thermometer, barometer set, tall salt shaker and pepper grinder in hand rub- ~bed--wood,—-revolving-.three-tier.

' gpice rack, for steaks, a cook

and serve aluminum platter, with protecting board under- neath, ice bucket, magnetized knife. holder with set of kitchen knives, steak knives.

In the $20 or less field, there are: Carving set, electric heat- ing tray, foods keep warm for. hours for later: comers or un- expected delays, salad bowls with servers, electric blanket, car- pet sweeper, combination elec- tric can opener, transistor ra- dio, aluminum folding cot with

Guide for young

Material contained in

grooms, families. and. following:

Invitations. The reception.

foam rubber mattress, for that extra guest. , Over $20: Electric food warm-

clock-radio, automatic deep fat fryer with insert basket, vacuum cleaner, blender, coffee table, floor or table lamp; small orien- tal rug. .

ed to the bridal veil or carried |.

“Giving the’ bride--away”}~

the same period when the},

ing table on wheels, table oven |.

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SPREAD THE

- PATRIOT,

TIDINGS

The wedding day is one of the most important days in the life of any couple. This fact also ap- plies to not only those directly involved in the plans: and. cere- mony but also to those relatives’ and friends who may not have been able to attend.

This is where your local news- paper comes into the picture. Wedding accounts are welcomed by The Guardian and: Evening: Patriot and there is‘ no charge for publishing the picture or the story of your happy day.

Long before the bride-elect is caught up in that last. minute whirl of wedding preparations, the women’s editor of The

Guardian should be contacted. A guide to the preparing of:ithe account may be obtained from her, or it can be mailed, direct

will ensure that none of the details. of that important -day will be overlooked or omitted.

The wisest arrangement is to complete the story well in ad- vance of the. wedding, and have arrangements made with a res- ponsible friend or relative to add last minute details or changes and get it as soon as possible to the newspaper. The choice of picture should be left to the discretion of the photo- grapher. He knows which. photo will reproduce best in the new:

paper.

If for some reason the photo is delayed, send the wedding

account anyway. The photo and cutline can be published later. Publication after a month is . . Timeliness, is import-

to the bride-to-be. This guide

s—capture,_purchase—-and-|-—

Baby-sitters seen-real need-

MONTREAL (CP) Hun- dreds of Montreal mother are heading for mental breakdowns because .they can’t afford a baby-sitter and never get out- side-their four walls, the Mont- real. Volunteer Bureau. reports.

The bureau recently’ had a re- quest from. one moth who thadn’t” been out in 15 rs. Now, because another woman is willing to give up a few hours eeeasi she can go out

is designed as a useful guide to..prospective brides, attendants and .touches -on the!

Planning the wedding

once every two weeks

couples es

this annual. Bridal Edition

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Ever since Adam discovered that there were more important things in life than ribs, one of man’s most fascinating pursuits has been the Great Chase.

He has swum rivers, climbed mountains, tamed. lions, writen poetry, built palaces and de- stroyed cities— just to get a sigh of appreciation out of some bored damsel. ann yip a In reality, there are five ways to pursue the quarry. For the benefit of those who may he stymied at the moment, here they are: '

Be sad. This is a subtle ap-

Gifts and showers.

Selecting furniture. Homemaking decorating.

The linen closet——_. Selecting china and utensils. In the kitchen. -

The bridal cake. my

The bridesmaid and best man. Bride’s beauty care

“jin your life.

|proach which, if. applied with |some imagination, rarely fails. \Act at all times as if you are jburdened with a-great tragedy

Stare into space occasionally. |Few women can resist the chal- lenge of trying to make you for-

doubtful ant in the editing of the story.

PICTURE OF, BEAUTY AND HAPPINESS The place of honor in our annual ‘Bride Book’ this year goes to Mrs. MacLean, wife of +. Rev.-Hugh--Christie--MacLean,-and....the-.former. -Norma Hunter-Duvar, daughter.of Mr. and Mrs.

Some suggestions for men on chase

example of the brooding .pursu- er. He dressed in dark clothing, affected a limp bow tie and reckless forelock.He was al- ways muttering poetry under his breath and sighing audibly; when asked what was wrong, he grew angry. So far as we know, he was actually, a very happy person— and a whiz withthe

ladies, 4 y-1>-, a

e well-informed. Keep ‘your eyes and ears open for amusing anecdotes about famous people; learn the order of the planets according to their distance from the sun; be able to analyze the situation in the world’s trouble spots or outer space. Thus arm- ed, you'll. feel confident under- all circumstances and talk with an air of authority. No woman can resist a man of the world.

GROOMING ‘ Be ‘well-groomed. | ‘‘Let neat-

get. your ‘‘sorrow’’. Lord Byron was the perfect

ness please you”, the Roman poet Ovid advised men 2,000

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Your newspaper can help | others share happy day

A two column black and white glossy print, or negative of the couple is preferred for The Guardian.-A two or three column photo of the bride alone, close« up if possible is used in The Patriot. Color prints, slides and transparencies cannot be used.

In submitting your story; the women's editor would apprec- iate a double spaced typewritten on one side only of the paper, report. If carefully hand-written the same request applies. This ensures quicker editing and pub- lishing. Lie

Remember too, that showers and \parties in connection with weddings are of interest to readers’ and are regarded as social events well worth report- ing by. phone or mail to the .

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MEMORABLE MAGIC MOMENTS

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| Whether your marriage is sim- ple or elaborate, ancient tradi- tion is your uninvited guest:

The stalwart,. young warrior in an ancient past had neither time nor inclination for _cere- mony when he wanted a lady for his bride. Only courage and a fast horse were. needed, toge- «ther with:a strong armed friend. — © capture was the

But as people became. more |civilized and fathers of mar- riageable daughters more mer- cenary, marriage became a matter of purchase, and society made it more contractual and impressive with ceremony and ritual. :

Today's marriage ceremony differs sharply from these anc- ient forms in its dignity, its re- ligious' connotation, and its ele- ment of the free choice. Howev- er, it still’ preserves vestiges of \many early customs.. Your. brid- jal veil, the shower of rice and sharing the first!piece of wed- ding cake with your new hus- band are symbolic of ceremon- ies practised during earlier tim- es. Since they’ll form memorab-

ding day, let’s see what these odd bits of old custom mean.

In days when marriage by purchase was customary, a pro- spective bridegroom began with a pledge and part payment to prove his worthiness and good

ly magic moments on your wed-jthird finger— its circlet signify-

vored the diamond. Legend was that the diamond was born from the flames of love, and from this beginning it grew popular. In that country, it was called a token of reconciliation insuring harmony. i Your wedding band has an even earlier beginning. The pri- mitive bride sat before her cave and displayed the circlet of rush- es around her wrist or ankle as proudly as you'll show the dainty ring on your finger. Each season lady wife got herself a new cir- clet and her unappreciate hus- band soon changed the band to iron to signify the lasting -qual- ity of the marriage contract; as the custom evolved, it was plac-

An Anglo-Saxon rite placed the wedding ring on the thumb, saying ‘‘In the name of the Fa- ther,’” then on to the first finger with ‘‘and the Son,’’ the second finger, ‘‘and of the Holy Ghost,’’ and finally the third, ‘‘Amen.” And though the ceremony’ has been discontinuéd, the wedding jpand is still placed on the left

ing unending love.

As time went: on, the bride’s father repaid the groom for his purchase money by setting up a dowry for his daughter, though in time it increased her value considerably. Its earliest form

intentions. Gifts of cattle, food or jewéls to the bride-to-be and her father were called “earned money.” Later, the gift to the bride was a personal ornament |. or ring presented at betrothal, custom and from this came the practice of engagement rings.

social editor.

But it was Italy that first fa-

R. Arthur“ Duvar’6f” Charlotteown, The happy

bride and her husband are

|... burgh, Scotland,

now residing in Edin-

Bill Taylor Photo _

years ago in The Art of Love. “Let not the breath of your mouth be offensive, your mouth ought to be washed :ach morn- ing’’, was one of his good groom- ing tips. - George Bryan Brummel, be’ ter known as Beau Brummel, his immaculate grooming and beau- tifully tailored clothes was the talk of London. Froni Lady Broughmley’s dairy, October 3, 1813: ‘Today Mr. Brummel call- ed on us, to pay his respects to Papa. He is a beautiful man and perfection. 1 think I love’* him.” Be silent. No matter how| germ-free your mouth, once you learn to keep it shut: at the pro- “per time? you'll be amazed at | how. your. stock will go up. Nod knowlingly from time to time; that way, even when you don’t know what’s going on, you'll give the impression of being wise. When she says something, smile with just the faintest touch | of cynicism— and. say nothing. It may drive her crazy— but it will also intrigue her Conquer your world. Two .ex- amples ¢gome to mind, Julius Caesar and Napoleon. By -dom- inating the world in. which he lived, each won the ladies of his choice. ;

Bridal color superstitions

Brides of today are not super- about wearing colors other than white on their wed-

stitioqus

ding day. However gone by* most young

away;

Married in black, you will wish

yourself back; out of town;

yourself dead;

in years maids wouldn’t ‘think of changing this old tradition. Here is what one poet thinks of the situation:

Married in grey, you will go far

Married“it brown: you= will: live:'ceremony..——.--.—... eee Q. Is the clergyman invited to ,

Married in sed you will wish |theareception.

was the trousse, a bundle of clo- thes and personal possessions which the bride carried to her new home, and the modern

originated from this

ROMAN INFLUENCE ’ But always, the wedding day ‘was an occasion for ritual, pomp and a lavish marriage feast. The early Roman bride dressed in white ceremonial robes as a sign of purity and was grateful for the veil which hid her blushes. Guests, too, wore white as was customary on sacred and happy days. Actually, the veil is a rel.

‘wedding

A. Bride’s initials co me first inside the band,: then groom’s and date of marriage.

Q. How many ushers are need- ed?

A. It depends on size of wed- ding. Figure one usher to 50 guests.

Q. Is it necessary to have the same number of ushers and bridesmaids?

A. No.

Q. In ‘a church wedding, which \side is usually reserved for the bride’s family and- friends?

A. The left. The groom's is the

- lright side. (in some synagogues

this is reversed.) Q. What if a church has two centre aisles? f A. Pick one aisle and run the whole wedding as though it were the only one, or use the right hand aisle for the processional and the left for the recessional. Q. May any feminine member of the wedding party wear salle gee Fi wees A. No. ‘ Q. Are divorced parents of the bride seated together in church? A. No. The mother keeps her front-row seat, with her new hus- |: band if she’s remarried. The fa- ther .sits in the third left-hand

pew. Q. What is the chufch seating | if the groom’s parents are di- vorced? A. His mother sits in the front | right- hand pew, the father in the |. third. ; Q. Does the groom always: kiss the bride at the-altar? A. The clergyman will rule on it, according to church. practice. Q. Who gives clergyman his fee? : A. The groom pays, but best man hands.is over in plain white envelope before or after the

A. Yes, with his wife. He sits at parents’ table. :

ic of the days when the bride's face was covered on her wed- ding day. until her husband lift- ed the veil and gazed for the first time on the face of the wo- man he had purchased.

An ancient custom of brides in Israel was the wearing of a blue ribbon border on their frin- ged robes— blue denoting purity, fidelity, and love— from this comes the suggestion that you wear “something old, something new, something borrowed, some- thing blue.”

The wedding feast was gener- ally protracted for a week and ffom_ceremonies held to secure abundance of material wealth for the young couple has come the Wride-cake. In early Roman

ed on the left third finger from a supposed connection of a vein | days\it.was made from _flour, there with the heart. ‘ water and-salt; in Greece, from

seasoned seeds pounded, roast- ed and mixed with honey; and your wedding cake though dress- ed up in white icing and smiling figures, symbolizes abundance just as in those. days. 3 Today, the act of eating the first piece of the wedding cake together means sharing each other’s lives, but the ceremony dates back to primitive times when only man and wife ate fromthe same dish or bowl or even. gnawed the same bone. Fertility rites are also among the oldest and most universal of marriage customs, and though they have varied over the ages and among different peoples the idea has remairiéd the same — to make the union fruitful. CRUSADE RITUAL Saracen brides during the Cru- sades wore headpieces of orange blossoms as the orange was in their country the most prolific fruit - bearing trees. Among the Chocos, and Hindus, brides look- ed at the sun“on the ‘day before marriage, as strong faith was placed in its fertilizing power— hence, the popular, “Happy is the bride the sun shines on.” Rice throwing originated in the

Traditional wedding customs had origin dating to Crusades

pitiuos and depart, but today has devéloped into a systemat- ic method of wishing couples. an abundance of offspring.

Male members of your wed- ding party, too, have their coun- terparts in the past. For the fa- ther “to give the bride away”

dates back to the time when she

was a commodity for purchase, - though today it symbolizes she is leaving his household for that of her husband's. The best. man

groom when marriage by cap- ture was popular. And if the lady offered no objections, we - have a throwback to the modern eloping couple. ;

Even old shoes ted to the back of your wedding car have mean- ing! In ancient Egypt the father

how simple or elaborate your wedding will be, it has its count- erpart in remote antiquity. So- ciety in all times and. among dif-

idea of giving food to the evil |spirits to induce them to be pro-

Expert advice for-new brides etiquette problems

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Q. How can wedding gifts be

_- A. Three to four weeks before the ceremony. Q. When should —§ announce- ments mailed? — A.A or two after wed- ding. Q. When are at - home cards sent? A. Usually with ment. . Q. Are wedding announce- ments ever sent to anyone who's” been invited to the ceremony or

? = _A. No. <

the announce-

if home displayed if a a

Married in green, ashamed to! be seen;

Q. May a house wedding

be

| Married in yellow, your. fellow; . (

Marriéd-in blue, he will always | be true;

| Married in pink, your spirits will | sink; i

| Married in white, *you have

| chosen’ aright. —

ashamed. of

\ding?

fa as formal as a church wed- | _ 5

A. Yes, although there jnever as many attendants. Q. Is there usually a recession: lal at a home wedding? | A. The married couple turn (seeeue affer ceremony and re- ceive best wishes of the guests.

are

3; presents? ~ fa church wedding require an A. No, but they may be noted |answer? ten Sieutitstog cards put @ If the bride's parents are . Are pu . with the presents on display? divorced, who issues the invita- A. Not these days. Bos and: plans the wedding? Q. Is it socially correct to ex-| A. The mother. change duplicate wedding gifts? | Q. May wedding invitations be parture in a shower of rice. ena ment ul ee does groom . Are ever . Yes. ae Geta acer PrO- |e eceptiont a Q. May a divorcee send invita- A Boutonniers, ties and A. No. tions for her second wedding? gloves. 3 Q. ‘Where may a. reception be A. No, but she may send an- Bio nee Brovites ane, corsates | "A. At the’ bride's home, the| @. How does the factithab the:- | | A. The groom. : house of ¢ feidad, Nate te 8 ee ees dene ye ait; Whe provides for the wed- |" Q should the bride and groom| A. No difference. a ae A wer, bette's parents smoke or hold a drink on the re-| Q. If the bride is a very Q. What gifts may a bride |eiving line? witow,- may har taraliy- cond aan givea bridesmaid? A a a Sic rg eo A. A small lasting gift, per- Q. Do ushers and on man A. Yes. {haps jewelry. stand in receiving line? . us Are reception cards enclos- Q. What gift does a groom ‘a When should invitations, (“2 it invitations? at Bode asa ments be ordered? A. Yes, and so are reply Q. How are wedding bands in- When acu’ © alt tialied? haat tty mare lenn Ford

HOLLYWOOD (AP) — Glenn — Ford, Canadian - born veteran

* MR. AND MRS, RAYMOND MATTERS ).