intellectual Congeniality Should Be Assured Before Marriage

DEAR. MISS DIX: I hava been married about a year to a husband,

who dislikes intensely my love for good literature and studying. b“! until last week there has been novgreat dissension about it. I do all of my housework and cooking and help him in his business for a few hours every day, but my evenings are left alone, as he does not returr. from work until 11 RM. So I decided to take up a small college course of two hours on Tuesday and Thursday nights. This angered my hus- band so much that he refuses even to speak to me.

What must I do‘! This is not the fifty-fifty marri- age of which I dreamed. Am I to be this man's slave’! May I not have for my own, to use innocently, four hours out of the 168 in a week? My husband's conduc‘ is killing my love and making me hate him.

TROUBLED WIFE

ANSWER: Your husband's conduct is inspired by jealousy. His egotism makes him desire to be superior to you in every way, to pose before you as an oracle, and so he cannot bear for you to study and read and make yourself his intellectual su- perior. Very many men take this attitude toward their wives. It is really the explanation of why so many clever men marry fools. A man always wants to look down on his wife instead of up to her.

So, in judging your husband, bear this in mind d realize that it is his distorted love for you that makes him want to eep you in his own intellectual class. l-Ie feels that the only way he can keep you is to fetter your mind. He is not wise enough to know that the very method he is taking defeats its own end and that nothing he could pos- sibly do would drive you away from him so surely as this til-reasoning and petty tyranny.

If your taking the college course angers your husband so much, pos- sibly you will be wise to give it up in the interest of peace and harmony. But don't give up your reading and studying, for the world of books is going to be the place of refuge to which you will have to flee when you find life with a small-minded husband almost impossible.

But why did you marry a man whose tastes are so uncongenial and unsympathetic? I-low was it possible not to find out before marri- age your fiance's attitude toward the things that meant so much to you?

If only young people, who think they are in love with each other, would stop asking each other about the state of their affections and would put a few searching questions about their tastes and habits and opinions, how many unhappy marriages could be prevented!

DOROTHY DIX

DEAR MISS DIX: I have been keeping company with a wonderful girl for the last six months. Sha is beautiful, does not pet, drink or smoke and is a wonderful little cook. But here is the hitch. She will not accept any gift from me, though I would like to get her everything. If we go in for even an ice cream or a soda she insists on paying her own check. The other day we got on a street car together and she paid her fare and two of my friends who saw it razzed me about being a cheap skate and asked me if I needed a nickel. This made me mad and I asked the girl why she wanted to put me in such a humiliating posi- tion. She considered that rude and since then has had nothing to do with me and I am heart-broken. ‘What can I do?

BILL

ANSWER: Give her a little time and she will get over her mad, particularly as shs will find out that every other decent-feeling young chap takes the same position on that subject that you do.

her. He wants to give her things. l-le wants to ‘feel that he is taking care of her, making life a little easier and pleasanter for her.

Why, that is what men work for. That is what they make money for, to spend on women. It is to give women good times and pretty clothes and jewels and luxuries that men toil. There is precious little that their money buys for themselves.

And a girl knows little of masculine psychology who doesn't let a man spend something on her, for the more a man does for a- woman, tho more he loves her.

Also, men are far more conventional than women. It is expected that the man will pay the bills when he takes a girl out and when he doesn't do this it puts him in the attitude of being a male gold-digger

or else a cheap skate and both positions are humiliating and make him

ridiculous in the eyes of other men.

It is fine for a girl to be independent and not to be a gold-digger, but she has to have enough discretion to know when to open her pocket- book and when to keep it shut

DOROTHY DIX,

DOROTHY DIX cannot reply personally to l ‘ , but will answer problems of general interest through her column.

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Q. Ia it proper for s. girl to give her fiance an engagement

' s. no. u purely optional; in

most cases, the ring given to the .girl is the only engagement gift exchanged.

Q. Is it ever permissible for an icmpioyer to take his woman sec- iretasy to luncheon or dinner?

A. Yes, when strictly a matter l of business, but not in s. social way ,uniess he is wiilins. if seen by |friends, to have his act misinter- preted.

Q. Is it correct to refer to s doctor's wife as "Mrs. Dr. Brown"?

A. No; the correct form is "Mrs. Brown." or say, "the wife of Dr. Brown."

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1. What is wrong with this sen- tence? "It 1s just like I thought it would be."

2. What is the correct pronunc- iation of “comatose”?

3. Which one of these words is misspelled? Marital, pedestal, in- stal, oriental.

4. What does the word "rosette" mean?

b. What is a word beginning with ex that means “state of re- quiring immediate action"?

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1. say, "It is just as I thought it would be." 2. Pronounce kom-a- tos, first o as in on. B» lmsirflfldi second o as in no, accent first syl- lable. 3. Install. 4. Tinged with rose color. "The roseate glow oi’ fame inspired hfrn." 5. Exigency.

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A widower who was about to be married for the third time, and whose bride-to-oe had also been st the altar before, wrote at the bottom of the wedding invitations:

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As elderly men and wcnen out-

umber any other single group be- cause the life span is now so much longer, it is not surprising that the general practitioner or family doctor finds much of his practice among the elderly. Just as there are specialists-for children, there are now specialists for the elderly. The family physician however ca: still look after his elderly patients because he knows them well.

Many of us have the - feeling that as men and women grow older they are bound to develop more and different kinds of diseases. Aside from the ordinary wear and tear of the years, and with it the more likelihood of developing cancer, there is no special reason why the elderly, in normal or mm- fortsble circumstances as to food and shelter, should have much more sickness than when at middle age. Aside from real or organic dis- ease. the elderly have mental and emotional problems which can up- set many of the various organs of the body. It is these symptoms caused by emotional disturbances which the family physician can often clear up, knowing the whole make-up of the patient. He knows not only the history of the pat- ient‘s life. but as it is today. The family doctor also knows the fin- ancial position of the elderly pat- ient and whether he is giving aid or receiving aid from his sons or daughters.

ln the treatment of the symp- toms present in the body aused by emotional disturbance the first thought of the physician is to make sure that there is no organic disease present and if present to make sure that it is not the cause of the symptoms of which the pat- ient oompiains. If the physician spends forty to sixty minutes thor- ~oughly examining the patient, he knows. and the patient believes that when no organic disease is found, there is, humanly speaking, no real disease present. 'I‘his re- lieves the patient of anxiety and as it is anxiety that is causing the symptoms~rapid heart best». indigestion, headaches —- i-hele should soon disappear. The patient ,beoomes happy; happiness begets good health.

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Judy's letter, an always esteemed nrisaive, came today. It was writ- ten in the same happy characters of her girlhood, and even when reading between the lines we can safely assume that Judyis a good mother and we know that she meets the demands of this new role in the lame spirit of fun and ad- venture, we were wont to admire. We remember that at every turn she was‘ able to find entertain- ment, and if on an outing only as far as a neighbours or to the cor- ner-store she could find much of interest to relate of the scenes she had looked upon ‘or the people she met and talked with. For Judy was one who .lov.ed‘to chat.

She had the nice faculty of being able to draw conversation from the most tongue-tied of mortals, and children,‘ even the shyest, were soon acquainted with her. We wonder if Judy's curls lie smoothly when she prepares for church on the Sabbath and if not, would she give in to any impatience at once, now that a small one has beeh giv- en into her care’! Mothers’ posi- tlons, even to the most careless oi‘ us, are not to be regarded lightly and Judy was ever one beneath her light-hearted way to take her responsibilities seriously. Many fine qualities of heart and hand- and character she will be able to teach her babe, this Judy-girl who lived with us at Alder-lea for close to a year, . . I O

He is, her letter tells us, "a very fine lad! He is five months now and cutting first teeth but not complaining one bit over the or- deal. l-le sleeps soundly the night through, and is no trouble at all to us." Indeed as Judy sums it up "he is just a darling!" "We are building a house", she goes on to say, describing it in detail, and sending a creditable sketch of it as well. "We commenced it in April lind have ihe kitchen and living-room completed and have already moved in. You have no idea how wonderful it is, after a spell of morning and boarding, to come at last to a home of your own! It's like—but then I can't find words adequa‘ to describe it All I can tell you is that we're very snug and very.ha'ppy here!"

said, “Just like old times" to re-

ceive a letter from Judy. In it rhe remembered the names of many a one: "How are the A's and Mr. C. from the house on the hill—ls he ‘still a confirmed bachelor?" One felt that in her own happiness, Judy would have others know the joy and companionship and affec- tion that belongs to married life

There was mention of “Pat-and how n he?" ‘The folks at Abe corner-store-and is Buttercup the cat, still alive?" The Churches- for Judy was one to anticipate and love her Sundays; and “Does James still work into the moon- rise? We have Daylight Saving here, though that wouldn't make any difference to him, l-Ie would work early and late regardless of clocks! And Benny, Mrs. Ellen- do you ever sea him‘! Don't you remember the day we planted potatoes together, and went to the show that evening-my birth- day it was? and what a pretty pic- ture that wasi Dear, dear. how old we're'getting to be, with all that behind usi It was nice over there on the farm." And it was

_ good too, to hear from Judy today.

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Among the cares and delights of our day. there was a lunch to he prepared for our farmers to carry with them to the field this aften noon, when the busy-ness of their haying and the distance kept them there at the supper hour. Sand- wiches and chka contributed by the housewives and a Thermos jug of hot tea, all to stay their strength and spirit at the stacking which began .today.

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After aperlod of mowing at Alderlea, from whence he must be called on the stroke of an hour. "not before and not after, mind you, Ellen!" Jamerwas away too to join them there at the other farm. to attend to the raking and to lend a hand at the gathering as well. Rob, who has worked up from the ranks, ls an experienced stacker now, and if James is un-

one” we suspect that the contents will prove acceptable to the stock when Wintry winds howl about the stables. A newly delivered pur- chase, and one James “always in- tended to have, because no farm- place should be without one" an extension ladder was used this ava- ning to reach and fix blocks in place in the height of a barn, in anticipation of the present "hauling in” here. But - - - "How about a bite of something, Ellen-I believe I feel a mite .em.ptyi"

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